marriage
Relationships
The Relationship Mistake That Keeps People Stuck for Years
No, your time is not a “sunk cost.”
Relationships
What to Do If Your Mother-in-Law Doesn’t Like You
Whether she criticizes your parenting…or hijacks the first dance at your wedding.
Life
When My Husband Moved Out, My Glow-Up Began
It’s been five years since the divorce, and we’re all thriving.
Relationships
Does the ‘Taxi Cab Theory’ for Love Hold Up in Real Life?
Why—and how—emotionally unavailable men have a sudden change of heart.
Op-ed
How Did Straight Marriage Become So Miserable for Women?
Women are giving up on men. But maybe that isn't the only way forward, one therapist writes.
Sex Love
6 Things I Learned From Blowing Up My Marriage (and Life) in My 30s
Disappointing others is uncomfortable—but it’s not the same as doing something wrong.
Relationships
The One Question You Should Never Ask Your Partner During a Fight
It turns the conversation into a debate instead of an opportunity to understand each other.
Love
What to Do If You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives
Your relationship isn’t doomed, but it’s important to address it to keep resentment from building up.
Life
How to Make Friends With Other Couples
You might have to look outside your social circle to find The Ones.
Love
How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
Love
7 People Share How They Discovered Their Partner Was Emotionally Cheating
“She was quick to start fights…and spoke fondly of a coworker.”
Losing battle
5 Signs You and Your Partner’s Arguments Are Unhealthy
If one of you regularly employs the silent treatment, that’s a problem.
Love
8 People Share How Their Divorce Changed Their Life for the Better
“Finally, I loved what I did for a living. I loved who I was and the new friends I’d made.”
State of the union
Scheduling a Weekly ‘House Meeting’ With My Partner Changed My Damn Life
Now we save the stressful stuff for our check-ins so we can actually enjoy our couch time and date nights.
Love
The One Thing You Should Never Do When Your Partner Is Annoying You
If you actually want them to change their ways, you have to be strategic.
Sex Love
How to Have a ‘Good’ Fight With Your Partner
The Gottmans—everyone’s favorite psychologist power couple—share what healthy conflicts look like, and the traps to avoid.
Sex Love
‘Fight Right’ Is Our February SELF Well-Read Book Club Pick
The psychologists behind the viral bird test think you’re arguing wrong—and want to help you fix it.
Word to the wise
The One Thing You Should Never Say During a Fight With Your Partner
A couples counselor says this bad habit will only set you up for more conflict.
Life
RHONY’s Jessel Taank Would Tell Her Younger Self to Shut Up More—And Stress Less
“I was like, Holy shit, I have to change; I cannot be so free, so frivolous.”